PEER THROUGH MY OPEN WINDOW.

I married at a ridiculous age of 18. 36 years ago. GOD DON'T I SOUND OLD
Eight years after we married we were blessed with a beautiful baby boy He was the most beautiful baby in the nursery I'm sure everyone who saw him thought so as well. 15 hours labour, but hey’ it was all worth it. Any how needless to say that marriage did not last longer than 10 years and one son. Pretty good don't you think? After all I was only 18, what did I know. I mean would you let your daughter get married at 18.

I wouldn't recommend divorce to any one. Especially when children are involved. They are the true victims of divorce. But having said that; once you have exhausted every avenue to save a marriage, only then have you earned the right to end a marriage.

Any how BACK TO ME I spoiled my son, I guess I felt guilty, and thought I should make it up to him. You know the broken home guilt trip thingy. Then three years later along came husband no 2 and another baby girl making us a total of four.
18 mths passed and we were blessed with another healthy dark haired princess, I decided that same day to shoot the stork and close up shop as I had done my share to help populate our country.

I am here to tell everyone that you can survive motherhood. I had no idea how tough it was going to be. Nothing could have prepared me for what has happened in our lives. All the love and care and planning in the world cannot prevent some events from happening. I cannot even bring myself to tell you what they are. But believe me when I say we have survived hell. and it has changed my family. I think we are stronger now, I have learned that we can handle pretty much anything that life can throw at us.

Eight years ago I got the worse news ever. I was diagnosed with MS. I grieved for five years for the loss of my former self. I use a wheelchair now as my legs have become useless, I am a different person now, some things for the better, I see everything so differently since this has happened, what was once important in life no longer is, don't sweat the small stuff. Life is to bloody hard and most days I cope with my lot and then there days I could end it. I am luckier then some people I know, so things could be worse. The good thing is I have become less rigid in my thinking and more relaxed with every day things. The stress I had put on myself to be the perfect mother,wife, housekeeper was killing me. This was Gods way of slowing me down…
God could have got that message across to me some other way surely.

I have 3 healthy children and a saint for a husband that deserves better than me. (Poor thing) We spend all day every day together, and have done for the last 19 years. I don't think I would want it any other way.
Having said that I still enjoy my alone times, when he does the shopping etc.

We love each other as much now as we did when we first met, if not more, we laugh allot, we understand each other I believe we are a perfect match besides I don’t think any body else would put up with either one of us. We are opposites in most things especially how we want everything done so that’s makes for some interesting dialogue. I like things done today where he would rather leave what ever he can for another day. But somehow it works.

to be continued......…….if you like.

ROOM FOR ONE MORE

Today I had planned a day out, all four of us. A lovely day out with kids. A rare occurrence since they are now teenagers.
They all complained, preferred to have a day with their friends. I assured them we would have fun, that this is how you build memories. Reluctantly they all agreed.
We are not an organized group, everyone tends to move at their own pace..mainly real s l o w...except me, so that fact alone drives me insane. (note to self think happy thoughts). its 11am now and my youngest is still in bed, ... to be continued......

We finally got on our way at 12.30. better late than never as they say. It was a beautiful day, one of those cold days even though the sun is out.

We had lunch at the Sailing club and sat out on the terrace over looking the boats bobbing up down in the bay. Very pleasant indeed.

We devoured two mouth watering seafood platters a glass of Red for the grownups and soft drink for the girls, followed by Mud cake and a cappuccino for everybody. And yes the girls even managed to enjoy them selves.
We took a few happy snaps to prove. it.

A good day was had by all.

Mission accomplished..

Must do it again sometime. :>

I WANT IT NOW.

When I got married many years ago, my spanking new husband and I set up home in a garage that had been converted into a granny flat.We had second hand furniture, only allowed to use the laundry between certain hours on one day of the week. We had one car between us, and both worked 5.days a week.

WE WERE VERY HAPPY. WE had every thing we wanted at that time. We saved and worked hard, we eventually purchased our first home, raised two dogs then started a family. in that order.

The want it now generation have no idea about the concept. "Everything in it's own time"

First they have kids, then borrow money with that all to easy to get credit card for that must have flat screen TV. then get kicked out of that two bedroom unit that is two months behind in rent. I could go on but I am getting angry just thinking about it.

When did everything get so screwed up.

Who is to blame. The media, Parents, School......or is it just greed the "Excessive desire to acquire or possess more (especially more material wealth) than one needs or deserves.